"Ask Amy" and the Straight-and-Narrow Neighbors
My daughter read this to me this morning, out of The Post. Seemed relevant to some of the discussions we've had here...
Dear Amy: My husband and I have lived in our quiet suburban Denver neighborhood for six years.
About two years ago two young gay men moved in across the street. They've taken the ugliest, most run-down property in the neighborhood and remodeled and transformed it into the pride of the street.
When it snows, they shovel out my car and are friendly, yet they mostly keep to themselves.
Last month I went out to retrieve my newspaper and watched them kiss each other goodbye and embrace as they each left for work.
I was appalled that they would do something like that in plain view of everyone.
I was so disturbed that I spoke to my pastor. He encouraged me to draft a letter telling them how much we appreciate their help but asking them to refrain from that behavior in our neighborhood.
I did so and asked a few of our neighbors to sign it.
Since I delivered it, I've not been able to get them to even engage me in conversation.
I offer greetings but they've chosen to ignore me.
They have made it so uncomfortable for the other neighbors and me by not even acknowledging our presence.
How would you suggest we open communications with them and explain to them that we value their contributions to the neighborhood but will not tolerate watching unnatural and disturbing behavior. - Wondering
Dear Wondering: You're lucky that these gentlemen merely choose to ignore you.
Your neighbors could respond to your hospitality by hosting weekly outdoor "gay pride" barbecues and inviting all of their friends to enjoy life on our quiet suburban street.
I can hold out hope that they will choose to do this, but I'm spiteful in that way. Your neighbors sound much more kind.
In your original petition to these men, you basically stated that while you value them when they are raising the standard on your street and shoveling your driveway, you loathe them for being who they are.
The only way to open communication with your neighbors would be to start by apologizing to them for engaging your other neighbors in your campaign. Because you don't sound likely to apologize, you are just going to have to tolerate being ignored.
posted by JimK at 4:14 PM
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Let's send it to Laura Schlesinger for her take.
Looks like the despicable day of anti-family forces is nearing nightfall.
Today, the Supreme Court agreed to hear a case on a law outlawing certain types of abortion. Another fictitious "constitutional right" seems headed for the dustbin of history.
Also, sixteen states now will have referendums on the November ballot banning adoption by gays.
A lot of good people are very happy today.
"First, as Dana said, just because the Court agreed to hear the arguments does not mean they will find such laws constitutional."
Actually, it does. A similar case already has come before the court. The law was overturned 5-4. O'Connor was 5. Alito will be a different 5. It's over.
"Second, that referendums banning adoptions by gay people are on the November ballot does not mean they will pass."
I guess it's possible the heartland will undergo a sudden conversion and embrace this idea but the oddmakers out in Vegas say no.
"But regardless of what happens I supsect your despicable anti-humanity diatribes will continue."
Yes, to the truly twisted mind, opposition to the murder of small children is anti-humanity. Same with support of a wholesome atmosphere for orphans.
"I guess fascism is still around."
Could you explain this fascinating observation, Alex?
Ok, rather than responding to the silly rather unserious throwing about of the "F" word, that is Fascism, I think I will respond to that Denver Suburbanite Who Hath Too Much Time on her Hands...
Dear BusyBody,
Have you ever heard the expression that as a Man Soweth so Shall He Reap? Surely your Pastor told you that...then again, maybe not.
BB (that is BusyBody) writes,
About two years ago two young gay men moved in across the street. They've taken the ugliest, most run-down property in the neighborhood and remodeled and transformed it into the pride of the street.
When it snows, they shovel out my car and are friendly, yet they mostly keep to themselves.
Wow, that you should be so fortunate...yes, I have gay neighbors too, and for the most part they keep to themselves (though I will stop and chat with one or the other while they walk their dogs).
BB writes,
Last month I went out to retrieve my newspaper and watched them kiss each other goodbye and embrace as they each left for work.
I was appalled that they would do something like that in plain view of everyone.
So, you saw two men kiss? Well, Boohoo! You knew they were gay when they moved in...what did you expect them to do when taking leave of each other? Shake hands???
BB writes,
I was so disturbed that I spoke to my pastor. He encouraged me to draft a letter telling them how much we appreciate their help but asking them to refrain from that behavior in our neighborhood.
I did so and asked a few of our neighbors to sign it.
BIG MISTAKE...they are your neighbors, not fellow congregants, so they need not ask or seek YOUR approval for the manner in which they live their lives.
BB writes,
Since I delivered it, I've not been able to get them to even engage me in conversation.
I offer greetings but they've chosen to ignore me.
They have made it so uncomfortable for the other neighbors and me by not even acknowledging our presence.
What did you expect???!!! Good grief, you openly humiliated them and now you expect them to treat you as a neighbor. For their acts of goodness (done I suspect so that you would view them as good neighbors that happen to be homosexual) you returned meanness that attacked them at the core of their identity. Again, I ask, what did you expect?!!!!!
BB writes,
How would you suggest we open communications with them and explain to them that we value their contributions to the neighborhood but will not tolerate watching unnatural and disturbing behavior. - Wondering
You want my opinion? Look, I am a Roman Catholic and I take my faith seriously...a faith that takes a dim view of the homosexual orientation. But I have been a neighbor (and friend) to several homosexuals. And the first rule of neighborliness is to allow each to live out their lives with dignity and respect. You stripped your gay neighbors of that dignity and respect, and since you do not seem to think that you have a need to change, the situation in your neighborhood will likely remain as it is now.
Pity that...if you had given them a chance they could have been more than just neighbors...they could've become friends. Now they will be strangers that you happen to live near. You will have to make peace with the way you treated them, realizing that you have made the bed in which you sleep.
Personally, I would prefer gays refrain from exhibitionism.
"This country is splitting in two. A modern state, and a medieval one,"
Looks like Dr. D wants to start a new country. Montgomery County, Massachusetts, Manhattan and Marin County will apparently merge and form a new kingdom. They'll call it...."Mmmm".
Anonymous said...
Personally, I would prefer gays refrain from exhibitionism.
February 22, 2006 7:37 PM
Anonymous, have you ever looked up the definition of "exhibitionism"?
Exhibitionism: noun, The act or practice of deliberately behaving so as to attract attention.
The American Heritage College Dictionary, 3rd ed., 1993
It is clear to me from the original post,
Last month I went out to retrieve my newspaper and watched them kiss each other goodbye and embrace as they each left for work.
that there was no sort of "exhibitionism" going on here at all. Certainly they were not doing it for the benefit of their Busy Body neighbor.
Yes, Orin and Dr D. I do think displays of homosexuality should be discreet. It's a different standard. It should be.
Anon- no one cares what you think! I know some people here want to coddle you but not me. The woman in the letter is despicable- and obviously stupid- not to understand how offensive she was.
"Anon- no one cares what you think! I know some people here want to coddle you but not me."
They just tell you that to keep up morale, Andrea. They can't counter my arguments.
I know you. You'd rather amuse than coddle.
Why are people here feeding this troll?
All he makes are inane statements without any sort of argument.
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