Wednesday, January 05, 2011

It Gets Better at Blake

Most of our readers are probably familiar with the local MoCo blog, Just Up The Pike. Dan there had a great post this morning, which I will take the liberty to replicate here in its entirety.
Yesterday, representatives from the Civil Rights Division of the U.S. Department of Justice came to Blake High School in Cloverly to premiere a video for the "It Gets Better" project, which aims to stop anti-gay bullying. Tom Perez, Assistant Attorney General for Civil Rights, was on hand to introduce the video and answer questions from students as cameras from local TV stations rolled.

In the nine-minute film, Justice Department workers, many of whom were gay or lesbian, talked about their experiences being bullied in high school. The video had two messages: that gay and straight youth alike should feel proud of who they are, and that the government is committed to protecting them from being mistreated. I was told that yesterday's premiere happened at Blake because of the school's reputation for being "gay-friendly."

Before I graduated from Blake six years ago, my friends and I lovingly called it "the liberal faggy school on a hill." But my brother, who goes to Briggs Chaney Middle School, tells me his classmates say that "any boy who goes to Blake is an F-A-G." I was shocked by this comment, because it's words like this that kept me from reaching out to people who could help me when I struggled with my sexuality in high school.

Blake has a gay-straight alliance called Allies 4 Equality. Though it existed when I went there, the first time I ever attended a meeting was last October. Deena Barlev, who advises the club when she's not teaching 9th grade English, invited me to speak at A4E. I've been best friends with her son Gili since 1998, and it's accurate to say that Deena watched me grow up and eventually come out.

In a Facebook message, Deena told me about the school's commitment to its LGBTQ students:

Blake High School prides itself on being a place where LGBTQ students and their straight allies feel safe and respected. Virtually every instructional area of the building has a "Safe Space" sign posted, and our principal has made strong and repeated statements to faculty that our students' emotional as well as physical safety is a professional expectation."

Even coming from a trusted teacher like Deena or an official like Tom Perez, a phrase like "It Gets Better" might be kind of irritating to a teenager who's being tormented every day without relief. At A4E, I heard about kids who got picked on in class and teachers who didn't really care. I met one boy who got kicked out of his house for being gay. The club meets Thursdays at lunch, and for forty-five minutes these kids have a safe space in which to sort themselves out. For the rest of the week, they're out in the wild.

I still wish I'd been smart enough to come to an A4E meeting back in 2005. I'd been picked on since elementary school, and as the taunts grew from "wuss" in fourth grade to "queer" in ninth grade, I didn't want to invite any more attention to myself. I was already a brainy, mixed-race kid who preferred theatre and chorus to gym. So I tried very hard to fit in, wearing football jerseys and baggy pants, and each week I'd find a new girl to chase after. The taunting eventually stopped, but I'd spend high school working very hard to be someone I wasn't.

It was exhausting. By the time I finished senior year I was terribly confused and very depressed. Worse yet is that I knew why I was unhappy, but I couldn't admit it to myself.

But things got better, and fast. I went from a suburban high school of 1,900 students to a university with 35,000 students. I felt anonymous, but it gave me the opportunity to take stock of my life and my identity; not surprisingly, I came out two months into freshman year. After college, I was incredibly fortunate to spend a year working for the Montgomery County Council, which was a very tolerant place. I had several out coworkers, and I was able to see that gay people can lead happy, successful lives.

I live a happy, successful life, and I look forward to having a career and a family of my own one day. It's not always perfect. When Tastee Diner kicked out a lesbian couple two summers ago, I was reminded of the prejudice that remains even in as tolerant a place as Silver Spring. Occasionally, I'll still get called a faggot on the street. And, most painfully, I'm still not out to most of my family.

But yesterday, I returned Blake with my boyfriend and signed the "It Gets Better" pledge, which reads:
Everyone deserves to be respected for who they are. I pledge to spread this message to my friends, family and neighbors. I'll speak up against hate and intolerance whenever I see it, at school and at work. I'll provide hope for lesbian, gay, bi, trans and other bullied teens by letting them know that "It Gets Better."

I also saw that my government is working to keep all of its people safe and free to be themselves. I saw that kids who are going through what I did are getting the love and support they need. And I got real, tangible proof that things are getting better indeed.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

looks like another slug of global warming headed our way:

"The winter has begun with an abundance of severe storms and extreme cold across the United States, and the combination of Arctic cold and an active storm track is destined to produce more harsh -- if not extreme -- weather for much of the country during the rest of January.

The cold weather will come in waves, with intense, Arctic cold probable from the Pacific Northwest to the Mid-Atlantic later this month. The storms will generally begin in the Pacific Northwest and Northern Rockies and should spawn significant winter storms from the Plains to the East Coast.

The first wave of cold will extend from the northern Plains to the Northeast and mid-Atlantic region through this weekend, with temperatures averaging 10 to 15 degrees colder than the already-cold January normals. Additional cold air, most likely more intense, will follow and cover a larger portion of the country as the month progresses."

when do a number isolated events become a trend?

just a question for the philosophy experts out there

January 06, 2011 9:52 AM  
Anonymous David S. Fishback said...


The climate issue is not warming per se, but the fact that the pollutants we have put, and continue to put, in the atmosphere are reeking havoc with natural climate systems.

By the way, what are your thought's on the Department of Justice video at Blake High School?

January 06, 2011 11:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so happy that inclusive comprehensive sex education curricula have been written, tested and implemented in Montgomery County public schools and that MCPS students at many schools especially Blake are finally getting places for their LGBT students to be safe from homophobic bullies. Thank you so much TTF for your work!!

Anon quoted AOL News saying "an active storm track is destined to produce more harsh -- if not extreme -- weather for much of the country"

That's right, Anon. Weather and storms are becoming more extreme, just as the global warming models predict.

Keep studying these facts and pretty soon you're bound to catch on.

January 06, 2011 5:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"That's right, Anon. Weather and storms are becoming more extreme, just as the global warming models predict."

actually, I don't think the recent weather has been very extreme and don't think it is moving in that direction

little colder than average and a lot of snow last year but nothing historic on a sustained basis

further, I just googled a number of sites about "effects of global warming" and while some mentioned extreme weather, those that elaborated said nothing about cold weather or snows

they all mentioned droughts, heatwaves, hurricanes and wildfires

all of which have occurred at various places around the globe but they've occurred regularly throughout human history

there, now you're educated

January 06, 2011 6:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Now everyone knows that you believe a few minutes of googling = being educated.

January 06, 2011 9:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

guess I could make it up like you and your fellow alarmists

I've read plenty of the global warming crap over the years

it's become a joke

but, go ahead and educate us

show us the global warming models that predict extreme cold

five or six years ago they were predicting increasing hurricane activity and "superstorms"

never happened

the blamed that on an El Nino and when that finally dissipated, they were on the alarmist crusade again predicting horrible hurricanes at the beginning of last summer due to global warming

never happened

they predicted an 80% chance of a sultry winter in Europe due to global warming

didn't happen

they're having a frosty winter so far

face it, whatever weather appears, they'll say it was global warming

there are losers and winners in any weather pattern

no tragedy

a lot more people would suffer from the economic decline caused by carbon taxes

news flash from the year 2020:

"Scientists released a study today indicating that the moderate temperatures we've been experiencing for the last ten years are a side effect of the tension between the warming caused by carbon emissions and the cooling caused by carbon emissions.

The researchers that unless a concerted global effort is begun immediately, the moderate temperatures will become irreversible and millions will die of boredom."

January 06, 2011 10:33 PM  

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